Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Youre so vain, you probably think this blog is about you

OK, first off...Carly Simon rocks! Apparently not so Warren Beaty... LOL
I could not resist the title, excuse my corniness!
Vanity, Ego... I am not sure if its a fragile ego, or an over sized ego that makes people react and behave the way they do. Perhaps it is a bit of both. I work with 3 other people, I am the lowest on the totem pole which is fine by me. I make mistakes occasionally, I am new to the Financial Planning business, that's something to be expected. Even though I dislike being wrong, I own up to those mistakes. If I lied, who would I really be fooling anyways? My co-workers rarely ever admit when they are at fault, even when they are glaringly so. Its always blamed on me, and if I am not a possible scape goat, then its each other. Everyone there is older than me, why cant they be mature and admit their mistakes?
I see this everywhere...online and offline. Online it easier to avoid being at fault. Just don't answer a post/comment or turn it around on the other person. The thing is, the more you do that, the more others realize you are not being honest or to be more blunt, you are acting like a 2 year old...but you are not as cute as said 2 year old. Its not as adorable when a grown adult who professes to be mature does it. So please stop.
I have caught myself wanting to do it too... its human nature to not want to be embarrassed, or be blameless. But really, if you think of all the lessons we learn by making mistakes and owning up to them, we actually grow and become better and smarter people by making those errors.
Live your life as you please, but lets be honest about ourselves and our faults, weaknesses and strengths, this is a surefire way to become stronger and to earn the respect of the people who look up to you most...your children. This in turn will teach them some valuable life lessons about honesty, and having the inner strength to admit a wrong, and take from that mistake something that placing the blame elsewhere could not give them. Self worth, self respect and a healthy ego.

6 comments:

Andrea said...

Dishonesty seems to be a theme this week. I agree, it stinks when people are not honest and do not own up to things they have said or done. It sucks to feel lied to.

Wendi said...

yes, I often times find myself thinking "really, your going with that story, and sticking to it huh!?" wow...ok moving on....

because if I said what I really wanted to say....I would be that 2 year old but not as cute or innocent!!! my sailor mouth would take over and that is the wendi I would rather not unleash....LOL

Minxy Mimi said...

HAHAHA Wendi! But I find you cute... not innocent tho!

Celeste said...

How true but I really feel like all I've been doing this week is owning up to mistakes and apologizing.

R.L.Scovens said...

Hi there! Visiting from Toni's blog!

I talk to my son all the time about my mistakes; so he can learn from them.

AJ said...

We all make mistakes...might as well learn from them. It's to bad people most people love to lay the blame elsewhere.