Saturday, September 20, 2008

Do you tell it like it is?

Or do you keep feelings inside? Do you find that people who "tell it like it is" tend to enjoy the sensation they cause with their unguarded words? Those people who tend to say nothing, do you think they are passive aggressive?

I am a combination of both I think. I prefer to tell it like it is, but I throw in a big scoop of tact... I don't like to hurt feelings. Sometimes I forget to proof read myself though and my words (mainly in the written form) come off harsh or browbeating. Sometimes I find while being passive/aggressive is not really healthy, sometimes it is satisfying! LOL Maybe I ponder things too deeply. I don't know. Ive been doing some soul searching lately and I think these random things.

What is your style and why?

8 comments:

ParentingPink said...

I'm a little of both too. I am pretty upfront about things, but I try to take other people's feelings into consideration when I'm confronting someone.

Debateur said...

I would really like to think that I was tactful in what I say and believe me I try but sometimes I do come across too harsh which is unfortunate.

R.L.Scovens said...

I hold things in. I'm trying to learn to speak my mind, but it's hard. I'm always worried about what someone is gonna think.

the real working women said...

I always speak my mind, and have found that there are times when it's MUCH better to just keep my mouth shut. I'm still working on it, but I think a little of both is the perfect combination...

Holly said...

I am very straightforward. I am never intentionally cruel, unless someone's dishing it out to others. Someone once told me that I had a way of telling people to go to Hell that would have them thanking me and asking for a map. I try to be reasonably tactful without sugar-coating things. Keep my mouth shut? Not likely; best to lay it all out in the open and not let things fester. :)

JLT6907 said...

I dont really tell it like it is. I kind of just sit back and take it all in and then give my opinions and what not. I hate hurting people's feelings. Especially those close to me. Now if My dh and I are arguing, you cant bet your bottom dollar, im telling it like it is! LOL

Keep It Classy, Jen said...

I think I am sometime too brutally honest...that's what get me in trouble. BUT my intentions are never to hurt anyone's feelings!

lonestar818 said...

A little of both here too, kind of depends on the situation.