Saturday, August 16, 2008

Boys playing with dolls... GAY ALERT??? SISSY ALERT???

Did that get your attention? I don't think boys playing with traditional girl toys will make them "turn gay" I think that is ignorance on some people's parts. Men seem to be the main people who I have known to really believe this, women tend to just want their children to play with things that will keep them interested and hopefully learning something. It always amazes me that anyone would think that could really happen.

What is it about boys playing with traditional girls toys that makes people freak out? Makes people fear a gay or more feminized son? IMHO (its not going to be everyone's) based on the many, many gay and lesbian people I have known (I live in Cali, I worked at a restaurant in a major Dept. store "Nordstrom" for 7 years... I knew dozens of gay/lesbians) My opinion is that gay people are simply born that way. Playing with a doll is not going to make them want to be married to boys. I feel this way mainly because I asked my gay friends if they "chose" to be gay. I am curious, I am nosy and I seek to learn about my friends and how they feel, and what makes them tick, because I want to understand them better and I want to learn about my fellow human beings.

Boys playing with traditional girls toys are not going to become sissy's, or be less aggressive than the typical boy...Why does no-one worry that a girl playing with trucks and cars will be a lesbian? I firmly believe it is just a child's make up, and temperament that makes them milder or wilder! LOL I know, I have two boys and they are as different as night and day and they both go to a daycare that has mostly girls. They play Barbie, My little pony, they wheel baby dolls and carry purses! Jack is a mild boy who likes to read and wants to be a Princess one day and a Monster the next. Max is all wild boy, jumping off couches without worrying about falling, riding his trike, playing with cars... One thing they both have in common is their love of animals (esp cats) and mommy of course!!

I let and encourage my boys to play with "girl toys", I will teach them to cook, clean and do laundry. I will encourage them to tell me their feelings, to not be afraid to cry if they have to (Not in school... who would want to get beat up by mean bully boys) so that when they grow up (NO NO NO) hopefully they will marry a lovely woman and they will be an equal partner and share the burden of chores and help with the baby. If one of my boys is gay, I will not berate myself because I will be convinced (and no-one can change my mind on this) this is how they were born. I will be proud that they did not seek to hide who they really are, I will support them and I will be proud that they are my son.

8 comments:

Debateur said...

My favorite toy as a kid was a Tonka truck and I loved building dams. I'm not gay.

Karyn with a Y said...

I agree! In the same way that a girl playing with trucks and balls with make her a tomboy or even lesbian. I am a firm believe that young boys should have a babydoll. It teaches them how to treat babies. This is something that helps especially when a mother is expecting.

Trish said...

It's funny because people don't make a big deal about girls playing with "boy" toys.

Andrea said...

I totally agree. I think men have a harder time with their son's playing with girly items though. My son is currently obsessed with a baby doll he brought home from his grandparent's house that is all girl and wearing a pink gingham dress and pink paci. It doesn't bother me. I love how sweet he treats his baby doll.

Jess said...

EC Dropped Mims!!

JLT6907 said...

I dont see a problem with letting boys play with *girl toys*. girls are allowed to play *boy sports* so that would be biased too wouldnt it?

Keb-o-Mania said...

Amen to that!

lonestar818 said...

I agree. Boys (many of them at least) grow up to be daddies, so what's the big deal in playing with dolls (ie. playing "daddy")?? I don't get it.

My sons don't have any dolls, but they do have stuffed animals which they used to love pushing in a stroller, and my older two loved helping me with their baby brother when he was little :)