Monday, August 18, 2008

Me time or ME ME time! We all need it

Moms will hear me on this I am sure. Me time... we all need it. Life isnt or shouldn't be all about the kids and husband (In my honest opinion) Mothers, and women in general need alone time, me time, friend time, away time, internet time... whatever you call it. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and husband, but I feel a loss in spirit when I do not get some moments to myself every now and then.

Do you think your life should always be about being a mom and wife? Never be about yourself? Because it is not selfish to think of yourself, your feelings, needs and wants. It would be a disservice to yourself and your family to never think of your own needs. There is only so many messy hands, poopie nappies and husbands ego's we can stroke before our own weary mind screams for a respite. Am I selfish?

I just could never give up my own being, my own essence if I may be so dramatic, to be only my kids mom and a wife. I think those things are two of the most important things in the world to me, but they are not ALL of me, and they never will be. Perhaps I am not self sacrificing enough, I dont know. I just know that I am not as happy when I am not doing something just for me. Whether it be reading a Harry Potter or Julia Quinn book, or making soaps, being on my forum, talking to my friends, or going to Renaisance faires.

I think that my family beneits from this actually. I come back from my mini vacation feeling refreshed, less stressed, having more patience and eager to see my children and my hubby and hear of how thier day went. Even a few hours alone reading a book makes me feel so much more at peace and less harried and hassled. Being a working mom of two boys under 4 (and having a very sweet, and a bit clingy hubby) exhausts me. My (hopefully) quick forays into Regency England, Hogwarts or my Soap factory makes Mimi a better wife and mom.

8 comments:

R.L.Scovens said...

Me time is what it's all about. Mothers give and give and we really do need time to regroup and to remember who we are! We can't lose ourselves in our families. They need the best of us, so we need that time to ourselves to be able to give them our best!

AJ said...

As Moms we do need that time to refuel, time for quiet and time to pamper ourselves. When we do this we come back ready to take the bull by the horns again.

Tena said...

AMEN!!!
I love all my boys ( including the hubby) but when my night comes to go out with friends, I run out the door, no time for walking!!
HA HA HA
Thanks for stopping by to visit with me!

Wendi said...

me time!?!?!?! what the heck is that??? I have not had me time in the past 17 years!!! I don't even know who ME is anymore!! I am so and so's mom....

Minxy Mimi said...

But you deserve some me time Wendi... I would suggest a trip to the beautiful Napa Valley Wine Country, at a B and B I know! LOL

JLT6907 said...

i totally agree with you! my me time is when the kids are at school and in bed. if i didnt get me time id have gone nuts by now! LOL

Debateur said...

I agree Mimi. I think that having time to explore a few of my own passions makes me a better Mother plus I look forward to passing on these passions to my daughter as she gets older.

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