Moms will hear me on this I am sure. Me time... we all need it. Life isnt or shouldn't be all about the kids and husband (In my honest opinion) Mothers, and women in general need alone time, me time, friend time, away time, internet time... whatever you call it. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and husband, but I feel a loss in spirit when I do not get some moments to myself every now and then.
Do you think your life should always be about being a mom and wife? Never be about yourself? Because it is not selfish to think of yourself, your feelings, needs and wants. It would be a disservice to yourself and your family to never think of your own needs. There is only so many messy hands, poopie nappies and husbands ego's we can stroke before our own weary mind screams for a respite. Am I selfish?
I just could never give up my own being, my own essence if I may be so dramatic, to be only my kids mom and a wife. I think those things are two of the most important things in the world to me, but they are not ALL of me, and they never will be. Perhaps I am not self sacrificing enough, I dont know. I just know that I am not as happy when I am not doing something just for me. Whether it be reading a Harry Potter or Julia Quinn book, or making soaps, being on my forum, talking to my friends, or going to Renaisance faires.
I think that my family beneits from this actually. I come back from my mini vacation feeling refreshed, less stressed, having more patience and eager to see my children and my hubby and hear of how thier day went. Even a few hours alone reading a book makes me feel so much more at peace and less harried and hassled. Being a working mom of two boys under 4 (and having a very sweet, and a bit clingy hubby) exhausts me. My (hopefully) quick forays into Regency England, Hogwarts or my Soap factory makes Mimi a better wife and mom.