Friday, February 27, 2009

Do you ever get surprised

By people? I don't mean like they jump out from behind a door and shout "BOO"
I mean people you thought were absolutely awesome and cool and kind and had integrity, turn out to be frauds. Or maybe fraud is too broad of a word. Maybe they are misguided, insecure. Its disinheartening to see someone you like, you think you know, fall into a trap, a pit. And nothing you can say will save them. Because they think they are safe.

And then there are the people you think are not so cool. People who you misjudge and label. People whom you don't even give a chance to because you think you know what they are all about... until one day you see the person inside. You see a glimpse of something. Kindness, Loyalty, Empathy. Then you wonder why you didn't give that person a chance... Ive done that two times in my life. Both of those people turned out to be some of the very best friends I have ever had.

Of course I have been burned a few times too... who hasn't? But the burns tend to be third degree ones! Not requiring skin grafts, but yet you wish you could graft that person a nice, new attitude... But of course they don't think they need it. Those types never do. I think it angers me and frustrates me so much because I can see glimmers... glimmers of kindness, glimmers of coolness. Its an eye opening experience. It shows you the best and the worst that we humans can be, and how we can always change. We just have to want to try.

11 comments:

Kristina P. said...

We talk about this a lot with the kids I teach in anger management. We have this really great video about Flash Judgements. We all make them!

Kathy B! said...

Such true words!! I really enjoyed that. As I was reading each section I flashed to different people I've known who fall into those categories. I don't think I've thought about it in just this way before. Made me go hmmmm....

Saundra@ItalianMamaGoneCrazy said...

Well put, my friend... and I quoted you in my Letter to Tonia.

I edited it a little...

Also I grabbed your button... will you grab mine... it's lonely.

Thx!

I'm needy today. I'm thinking about curlin up in the fetal position and sucking my thumb.

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Wendi said...

isn't it amazing to give someone a chance and WOW they end up being a wonderful, caring and thoughtful FRIEND!!! I have a "few" that gave me a chance and damn....I would not trade them for ANYTHING!!!
wink, wink wink, or should I say wonk wonk wonk!!!

LadyStyx said...

Been there done that. Those first people I call plastics because they have all the substance of a Barbie Doll....

blueviolet said...

Don't they say that within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone you've made your judgment of how you feel about them? It's something like that. But those surprises are wonderful!

Jenni Jiggety said...

I am surprised by people A LOT...

Seeker said...

oh Minxy...you are such a sweetheart. so kind of you to invite me to find spring.

Debbie said...

You are so right. I get surprised by people all the time.

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