Well, when do you stop having sympathy for friends that stay with men that are abusive/mean/unkind/controlling?
I am not talking about the man who might not be good at communicating, or is a couch potato, I am talking about men who control, who belittle, who call names and the women who love them, stay. and excuse. and get sympathy... but when the cycle repeats itself over and over and over...no matter how much good advice they get, my sympathy starts to fade into annoyance. I think its completely irresponsible and very wrong to subject yourself to that, add a child into the mix (or 2 or 3 or 4) and my annoyance turns into righteous anger. How dare women subject a child to a life like that. A child has no choice, but you do.
Is it a certain type of woman who lets herself be used and abused in this manner? Is it religion? Is it low self esteem? Is it simply habit? Is it a need for drama? I want to understand so that I can be more understanding, more supportive and less judgmental. I see many different types of women in my online life and my "real life" and these questions are ones that come up daily.
Enlighten me, help me to understand. I don't want to be one of those people who look down on others, who don't give support when needed.
But is there enlightenment? Am I right? Am I wrong? Am I an unsympathetic condescending jerk who thinks I know more than they do?
Thanks for listening to my rant.