Friday, December 19, 2008

How do you feel about the Duggar Family?

The ones who just had their 18th child!
Here is a link, if you wanna read more: Duggar Family

I think there will be a lot of strong opinions... personally, I think its completely unfair to your children to have another after another after another... when does "Mommy and Daddy" time come? When is there one on one? From what I read they are well behaved and do not use the government for money... BUT, I think its unfair. The older children are in charge of younger ones. I think its a mom and dads responsibility to be the main caregiver. It isn't an older sibling. JMHO

I think children deserve to be carefree, even if its just for a few years...even if they don't think they need it, want it, or miss it. I guess you cant miss what you never had...but it makes me sad somehow.

What do you think?

21 comments:

Dina said...

oh boy don't get me started on this!! I agree those kids are not kids they are babysitters...and I can't believe the mother's uterus has not fallen out yet. Nor how she stays sane, I have 1 kid and I have meltdowns. I think its the husbands way to keep her barefoot and pregnant.

Kristen said...

I totally agree. Kids should not raise kids especially if they are not their own!

Mia said...

Well. I guess I think to each his own when it comes to that...if they can afford it. I don't want to say how they should raise their family, barring any abuse.

HOWEVER, I am NOT going to EVER have anywhere near that number of kids. In fact, we're permanently STOPPED at 3 and it's too much for me at times. I don't want my children raising each other, I don't want my uterus warped any more than it is and if I had any more children, someone would have to lock me up. Period.

Anonymous said...

They are idiot hicks who need to stop pro creating.

Moriah said...

Well, I could go on and on about how irresponsible it is. To her body, to the kids to the environment blah blah . Honestly tho who am I to judge what one does. I do know that about 3 or 4 babies ago the doctor said her uterus was too thin to be having anymore babies. I think it is not fair to all of the kids they are "babysitters" and really how much of their child hood has been taken away from them?

R.L.Scovens said...

It's just selfish.

ciara said...

they are followers of a religion called quiverfull which i guess considers children as gifts from god. so they don't use any form of birth control. now she's only 2 or 3 yrs older than me, and i'm sorry, that's too many kids being that young. crikey, is she gonna have one at 50? at 60? have you ever seen the show? not sure if they're raising em to deal w the world realistically. they are cute tho. you know the oldest kid got married & he is 20. no kissing just hand holding all the while before marriage. dates are chaperoned. i don't know...everyone's got their own way of living. i don't judge. i like anyone and accepting on one's lifestyle as long as they're nice people. :)

Jen said...

I think it's funny that Michelle says she will keep having children until God thinks she's done. What does she think is going to happen when she doesn't use birth control?? I also think you have too many kids when you have to have the older ones watch the younger ones, and when they have assigned jobs. I understand the chore thing but these people go way too far.

Jen said...

Oh! I forgot to add, you asked when is there "Mommy and Daddy time" well it looks like they have PLENTY of that happening! LOL

Jenera said...

I think it's irresponsible to have that many kids even if you can afford them. It's not fair to anyone. Especially to the kids. I don't know, maybe I'm just a dork, but can you REALLY bond with that many kids?

Saundra@An Italian Mama Gone Crazy said...

Hi Mimi... Lol... they have plenty of 'ONE ON ONE' time if they made 18 kidlets! lol!! {wink wink}

I make my 14 yr old do a lot of younger one watching... so I don't have a problem with it so much. I just my kid... we are a family, and we help each other out... that's just how it is. Granted... he doesn't have to bathe, brush, or cook for his siblings... but still. Even though I only have 3kids, I don't allow a bunch of carefree stuff...

I bet she can stretch her uterus out and cover half the state of Texas though!

Truthfully, I have no idea what I am saying...
Duggars... enough already!!!

HeatherL said...

Well, I have to say that I do admire them for several reasons. First, they take excellent care of their children. I don't see any signs of neglect and don't consider expecting each family member to contribute to the running of the household to be unfair. It's good practice for when they have their own homes to care for. It's also possible to go the extreme (in the other direction) and "make the whole world revolve" around your one or two kids and give them the false sense that "it's all about them". I also admire them for "putting their money where their mouth is" They trust God to give them what He wants them to have and trust Him to help them provide and care for their needs. That is some amazing faith there, I think. Why should we critize them for having a big family when everyone is being cared for and loved? I don't want a big family. But they do, and that's their choice. So, that's my opinion. I can see why some would disagree and they may have some valid points too. Good topic, Mimi!!

Kristina P. said...

I belong to an etiquette message board, and this subject has been banned because people get so heated about them!

I don't really know how I feel.

Minxy Mimi said...

I do want to clarify, when I mention One on one time, I meant for parent/child time! LOL

Wendi said...

well to each their own...do *I* think its too much? of course my opinion is just that, but on the other hand being a mother of 5 I get the comments from the tree huggers out there, that I am "overly" populating the earth and I am doing a disservice to my other children by having so many...how could you possibly bond or love them? well that is damn easy! you fall in love with them the moment you hold them. and I cannot imagine life without ANY of my chilren. My older ones are in charge of the younger ones at times, but it is not like my dh and I go out and leave them to fend for themselves, so....if anything it has made them more responsible in life! I should have my 18 year old College daughter respond to the "its not fair" she would give you all an earful! LOL she is the most mature, do the right thing kind of girl, that I don't have to worry about...so if it makes one evil to have more than 2-3 kids....then I am about as evil as them come and I won't apologize for it....but *I* do feel 18 is a bit much....

HeatherL said...

Oh Mimi!! It's getting hot in here!! :)) I love it!! Well said, Wendi! LOL!

Stacy's Random Thoughts said...

If I could have had more than one child I would have...but certainly not 18! To each their own, though, while I personally think they've gone overboard with that many kids, it's their life and they feel their kids are blessings from God, so live and let live. They appear to be a happy, loving family, so that really should be all anyone 'cares' about. :)

Toni said...

They have a bunch of commercial properties, they are 100% debt free so I have to hand it to them, even if they have a freakishly large family, others have done it I am sure , I have heard grandparents of people saying they were 17 of 23 children and not everyone can do that and still be debt free.

While yes they weird me out I do have a little admiration for them, heck we only have 3 and are far from debt free. I am in awe they can do that. It's actually quite amazing.

However I do think she needs to heed the dr's advice and stop or she will end up leaving her family without a mother. They are right her in the town next to me.

I wish everyone would just let them be, if they were imposing on society and using govt money then I see why we should all have a voice but they are not so who are we to judge really. What is not right to us is obviously for them, and the same goes in the opposite you or me may do something that they would never in their life do so I think we should just let them be personally.

Okay rant done LOL.

sheila said...

I saw this on the news. Insane. Birth control lady. Birth. Control.

While doing my genealogy I found my gr gr grandmother had 18 kids. (4 died young) but they had that many to RUN THE FARM. lol.

To each his own I guess, but that's insane.

Chatabox Girl said...

I dont worry to much about this family. They have their own TV show, so they have a bit of money. The government doesnt support them, so there is no reason to complain.

I have had a look on you tube and the family seems to be well rounded and they love living in a large family.

I think the buddy system works well, I know the mother should be spending more one on one time with her kids, but she manages best she can.

She does state that she makes time to do this with her kids, and they are home schooled. So they are with her all day every day.

blueviolet said...

I can't watch that show. Eegads.